MamaBlogger365 – A Heartbeat Apart by Shira Adler, Diva Mama
As I sit here at the end of Father’s Day, I have a bittersweet taste in my mouth, reminded of some childhood trauma that I still carry with me today. It’s been roughly eight months since I’ve had regular interaction with my father and I can’t say that I feel too good about that.
I was reminded of the gulf between us when out of the blue, he called to speak to my daughter, who had reached out to him last week. It felt like he was calling from 10,000 miles away, which is funny, because he actually was. Literally, he was calling from Israel, where he takes his summer vacation from his university professorship in the NY area.
Writing about the things that matter most sometimes pisses people off. But there is no way to reach for the deeper truth, for the understanding, and yes, ultimately for the healing, if we choose to turn a blind eye to the events of our lives that have made us who we are.
I don’t need to bore you with the nasty specifics here. Suffice it to say I am the product of a difficult and traumatic breakup that my parents went through when I was 16, and our family was ripped apart as a result. As I sit here in the soft, sweet afterglow of a Father’s Day/Graduation dinner for my honey, his children, brothers and father which we all shared at my (now our) home, I am reminded that no matter what twists and turns our lives take, no matter how far down the rabbit hole we are likely to travel, it is never too far, and more importantly, it is never too late to allow joy and love in.
So Papa, if you are reading this (since I missed your call), I wish you a very happy Father’s Day. And even though we are 10,000 miles away, it is never too late to close that distance. We are really only a heartbeat apart.
BIO: By day Shira Adler is a cantor, spiritual vocalist, certified pastlife regressionist, voice-over artist, producer, performer, writer/blogger and mompreneur and by night… well, she is actually the same person at night though she does admit to wearing fuzzy socks when no one can see her and hiding a secret stash of Mallomars somewhere near her writing desk for those late night pick-me-ups. In, around, and between her various work activities, she is raising two beyond-the-spectrum children as a single mom (though lovingly gives a shout out to her best friend, editor and soulmate whom she considers the bees knees). Is it any wonder her website’s tag line is One Voice Many Paths? Seriously, look up the definition of a multi-tasking Mama and you will find her picture there. But when it comes to living a life of connection, faith and consciousness Shira is the gal to call — or if you’re fresh out of Mallomars — she’s always happy to give you one. For more information visit: ShiraAdler.com, read her blog at Diva-Mama.com; Social: Twitter (1DivaMama), Facebook (DivaMama1), Tumblr (not really sure, but the name is cute) and LinkedIn (because doesn’t everyone?).
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Photo credit: Father With Daughter by Bobby Mikul