MamaBlogger365 – I Guess I AM the Marrying Kind by Shira Adler, Diva Mama
The irony isnʼt lost on me that among the many lanes I pursue to earn a living — writer, cantor, past life regressionist, spiritual counselor — I count ofﬁciating weddings as one of the most joyful and fun in the bunch. I canʼt help it… I love marrying people. You could say Iʼm the marrying kind, in more ways than one!
For those of you who donʼt know me personally (or havenʼt been following my blog — ahem) you might be asking, soooo? Well, at the risk of trivializing the great institution of marriage, or denigrating my still emerging social aura (I say with a smile) let me just say Iʼve seen my share of weddings from both sides of the ceremony. Yes folks, Iʼm not embarrassed (anymore) to admit, Iʼve been married four times.
Yup, you heard right. When I ﬁrst started dating my honey he asked me if Iʼd ever heard of dating before meeting him. Though it was a fair question, the answer is yes, I had. I was just raised with a pretty conservative mindset — most girls, even twenty years ago, should marry and raise a family. Not necessarily multiple times, but my intentions were pure and my unwitting family inﬂuence – strong.
So, fast forward to now. I have found true love with a wonderful, creative, high-vibe, slightly crazy soul who loves me and sees me for who I am in ways I couldnʼt have dreamed before I met him.
Perversely, because I donʼt need to put the marriage label on us right now I think Iʼm more excited than ever when I see beautiful souls walk down the aisle. Every time a couple, whether interfaith, straight or gay, gazes lovingly into each otherʼs eyes, I know I have the best seat in the house… literally right in front of them. My honey ﬁnds this comical as well but trust me, the smile he beams at me when he catches my eye during a ceremony speaks volumes.
Letʼs just say, openness, delight, surprise and true love are not theoretical concepts to be held at armʼs length and coveted; they are to be embraced, welcomed and hoped for in every conceivable way. Having an earth-plane experience is not always certain or easy, but there is something to be said for being in the moment and letting the love in.
What can I say? I guess deep down I am a hopeless romantic and whether itʼs from the POV of the about to get married, or the one doing the ofﬁciating, going to a wedding reminds me how good it is to be alive. It really is about hope. And love. And, oh yeah, a good ring never hurts either!
BIO: By day Shira Adler is a cantor, spiritual vocalist, certified pastlife regressionist, voice-over artist, producer, performer, writer/blogger and mompreneur and by night… well, she is actually the same person at night though she does admit to wearing fuzzy socks when no one can see her and hiding a secret stash of Mallomars somewhere near her writing desk for those late night pick-me-ups. In, around, and between her various work activities, she is raising two beyond-the-spectrum children as a single mom (though lovingly gives a shout out to her best friend, editor and soulmate whom she considers the bees knees). Is it any wonder her website’s tag line is One Voice Many Paths? Seriously, look up the definition of a multi-tasking Mama and you will find her picture there. But when it comes to living a life of connection, faith and consciousness Shira is the gal to call — or if you’re fresh out of Mallomars — she’s always happy to give you one. For more information visit: ShiraAdler.com, read her blog at Diva-Mama.com; Social: Twitter (1DivaMama), Facebook (DivaMama1), Tumblr (not really sure, but the name is cute) and LinkedIn (because doesn’t everyone?).
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