MamaBlogger365 – The Beginning of Time by Patti Ashley, Ph.D.

“It is amazing how one day can change the rest of your life.”

This is the comment made by my twenty-six year old daughter the day after her son was born.

That day is today.

As I sit in the hospital room watching my baby girl with her new baby boy, the thoughts that run through my mind are that for Bodhi this is the beginning of time! It is as if the clock starts today for him. A new life and world to explore and develop. The idea of a new beginning is one that brings hope for the future. Bodhi has the opportunity to be whatever he was born to be, to live his true Self in the world.

My work for the past thirty-two years has been about parenting, and raising healthy, happy children. I have learned that many of the old parenting belief systems actually were designed to break the will of the child. Alice Miller’s book For Your Own Good describes in detail some of these old beliefs. In the eighteenth century child-rearing pedagogies, parents were instructed to break the will of the child, in other words to literally beat the devil out of him. Normal childish behavior was considered wicked. Discipline was designed to make children behave like adults. In the later part of the twentieth century, we learned from child development experts and researchers such as Jean Piaget, that children do not think like adults and that many of their childish ways are actually healthy developmental milestones.

My daughter learned many of the new child development truths from me as a mother and from the books and experts that I have shared with her through the years. She started babysitting and nannying at the age of fourteen. She has a sensibility about her that lights up when she looks at a baby. She sees the light in every child. She is going to be a great mother. She is going to be able to see her son’s true Self and allow him to thrive in his lifetime. What a gift he has been given to have her for a mother. What a gift she has been given to have him for a child.

The beginning of time starts today. We will all learn about starting over, new life and new ways to thrive together on this journey. Welcome Bodhi Elijah Ashley to the world. Born February 28, 2012 at 1:56 pm — California time, weighing 5 pounds and 15 ounces.

About Patti Ashley: Mothering Beyond Image helps women connect more deeply to themselves and others, therefore feeling more authentic, mindful and whole. I will be presenting the five main themes from the soon-to-be-released book in a weekend workshop in Scottsdale, AZ, on March 9 & 10, 2012. For more information, or to register for the weekend, please visit Please sign up to be on my mailing list to stay updated on workshop information. Mothers always want to know whether or not they are doing a good job. This workshop will help you know that you ARE!

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