MamaBlogger365 – Retrain the Brain – Making Changes! by Diane Lang, MA
Retrain your brain to make positive changes in your life – think it can’t be done? Here are 12 steps to get you started, courtesy of educator and Life Coach Diane Lang, MA:
1. Thought patterns produce feelings which produce actions. What you think = Feel = Believe = Who you are! Watch what you’re thinking – it’s very powerful.This means you can change your thoughts and control your actions.
2. What type of thoughts are you having? Do the “Snap 2 awareness” test and find out how negative you are. Find out your triggers. You can’t make changes until you’re aware of what you need to change. Awareness is key! Know physical signs of negativity – the red flags of stress, anxiety, anger, etc.
3. Negative thoughts are irrational. Positive thoughts are rational. A lot of character traits are learned along with habits/thought patterns. You can unlearn them and learn new thoughts/habits.
4. Clear you’re emotional debt – What are the old thoughts/habits you’re holding onto? Why? What need is it fitting? (Like fear, guilt, comfort, etc.)
5. Forgiveness – forgive yourself for your old thoughts/habits, etc. You were only doing what you thought was best, you were trying your best. If you don’t forgive yourself you will hold onto past hurts, anger, and not move forward. Quick way to live in the Now – forgive yourself so you can move on and forward. Forgiveness puts you in the power and back in the driver’s seat. Use compassion, empathy and love to forgive.
6. Emotional detox – you can’t change if your surrounded by toxic, negative people and environments.
7. Positive Affirmations – this needs to be done each and every day. Morning and night. They are most powerful done in front of a mirror. Say them everyday until it becomes a habit. EX: If you think you’re no good, worthless, no-one cares, etc., then your affirmation should be: I love and accept myself! This starts changing your thought patterns.
8. Every time you have a negative thought or comments, imagine a symbol that means STOP! The hand up, stop sign, red light, etc., Something that symbolizes a change in behavior.
9. Change your words and how you talk to yourself. Remove negative words such as Can’t, couldn’t, shouldn’t, maybe, etc. Replace with I can, I will, Choose, My choice, I’m free to, etc.
10. Be mindful of what you can and can’t control.
11. Visualize the change – What does your change/goal look like? How will you feel? Act? How has your environment or people changed? – use your senses to imagine your dreams/goals/changes
12. Be patient and kind to yourself – it takes time to change, at least 6-8 weeks.
No instant gratification
Keep up motivation with positive reinforcement
Change one habit at a time
For more information visit Diane’s website at www.dlcounseling.com
or e-mail Diane at Lifeline36@aol.com
Bio: Diane Lang is an educator and Life Coach. Diane has dedicated her career to helping people turn their lives around and is now on a mission to help them develop a sustainable positive attitude that can actually turn one into an optimist, literally. A therapist and educator of Positive Psychology, she has seen that it can provide a strong foundation for finding great happiness and is gratified that it is becoming a mainstream method of treatment. As an expert in her fields of therapy, Diane has been featured in the Daily Record and Cookie Magazine, seen on NJ 12 TV and the national television program “Fox & Friends”. She has also participated in a reality based Internet show, ourprisoner.com, hosted Generation X-tinet and appeared in various educational videos. In addition Lang writes a bi-weekly column “The Balancing Act” at www.thealternativepress.com and sharing her expertise on parenting and living a positive lifestyle on The WTBQ Expat Show.
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